Imagination Is Sexual Tension
In terms of “power” in a relationship, whoever has the higher tolerance of sexual tension, will have the power. Because whoever has the higher tolerance of power, will have more room to pull back mentally, and create more tension for others to chase.
You, have to be this person, and the reason is simple: Your ultimate weapon is not by chasing him all the time, but to create massive sexual tension, and let it unfold.
Here are a few keys to create massive tension that you can use right away. I won’t get into the appearance because it’s obvious that you should be taking care of yourself and present your best. Instead, I will teach you 3 principles that will drive men crazy:
1) YOU ARE THE PRIZE
What do all mankind chase? Prize. The first rule of the game: You have to make yourself the prize he is chasing. This means you should always frame the interaction as he is doing things because he wants you to notice him; Including making you jealous, ignoring you, buying your presents etc.
The trick for this is, all guys have their way to “chase” girl, your goal is to find the pattern. Are they straight forward? Do they use some lines from internet? Do they fall too quickly? You will gain the absolute advantage in your dating life and have much less stress if you just notice their pattern of doing things.
Because the sexual tension is the biggest part when it comes to commitment, this skill alone will make him much more easier for him to commit.
2) DON’T TELL, MAKE HIM IMAGINE
What makes a person wanting a prize more? Imagination. The most single important key to make him thinks of you more, is through imagination, which will magnify everything good about you.
For instance, instead of wearing miniskirt to show off your sexy legs to get more attention, you can sometimes wear something conservative and classy. This way he will have no choice but to imagine the moment when you were wearing miniskirt; The longer the time it lasts, most guys will have no idea if he is thinking about your legs, your miniskirt, or you. This is the power of imagination.
Another common problem when facing high sexual tension is the urge to confess, such as wanting to say “I like you”, “Let’s go to the next step”, or something like “Why don’t you call?!”. And very often you are not saying this because you want to know, but because either you are not confident, or out of frustration for not knowing what to do. This leads to our 3rd principle: Let hime create his own reasons.
3) LET HIM CREATE HIS OWN REASONS
The very first rule of commitment is, you should never force it, but to elicit it. Think about it, have you ever come up with all the silly reasons that you should like the person? Are they logical? I don’t think so. But why you become so obsessed with the thought?
The reason is simple, your own reasons have become the biggest re-enforcer of the emotion.
This is what you should be doing to him; Instead of saying “I like you”, you should say “Why do you like me?”, “Why me? I am no one special.”, or even “I really like you, but we should not be together…”. This way, he will come up with all the reasons why he likes you, why you are the most special person in the world, and why you should be together. Of course, his own reasons will be hundred times more than the ones that you give him; Be smart about the meaning you are giving.